How Not to Feel Guilty About Disorganization
October 7, 2008
Having trouble keeping up with things that used to seem easy? Feeling guilty because you just can’t seem to handle what you could before? Everyone in this world is disorganized in one way or another, at one time or another, even Professional Organizers (gosh did I just write that). It is true; we all have days and sometimes weeks, when we cannot stay on top of things and our lives get chaotic. The good news – you don’t need to let guilt about it take over your life! There are things that you should be looking at that may be the cause of the problem.
Now these are causes of problems, not excuses that you can use just because you want to procrastinate and not get the job done!
1. Has your lifestyle changed do to extra work, an ill family member or something that has disrupted your life at this time?
2. Have you been ill, depressed, overworked, causing major fatigue on your body and mind?
3. Do you seem to have more meetings than usual, company stopping over at inopportune times?
4. Are you trying to do too many things and running out of time for everything?
All of these things can cause a major change in your lifestyle and start the problem of disorganization to affect your life. It can cause stress for you and the other members of your family, unhappiness that will grow to a high frustration point and sleeplessness just by worrying about it.
So, what can you do about it when you know that organizing your home or office isn’t going to happen anytime soon?
1. First of all, don’t hit yourself over the head for it. Do small projects that take 10 minutes or less, so you can see that you are doing the chores that you ‘do’ have time for.
2. Sure, it is frustrating when you do not have time, but remember to remind yourself that when you ‘do’ have time that you do an excellent job. This is going to happen again and soon.
3. Keep in mind that an overworked, stressed out person may get medical problems that they never had before. Keep your life in perspective. Remind yourself that the world is not going to come to an end, just because, your house has clutter in it.
4. Make a list of the things that bother you the most, so when you are back into your daily routine, you will already have a starting point and will know what you will do first.
Do not let unnecessary worry and condemnation feed the guilt that you have. When you do have the time to get things back under control and organized, your home will look great and you will be able to be proud of it once again.
My house has gotten beyond way out of control…procrastination to keep control what with the stress of my family situation compound exponentially by my work situation…i couldn’t quit my family, but have to stay…and really couldn’t quit my job, but couldn’t stay…so finally being fed up with being set up for failure, I called them on it and was let go. I have all the time in the world to clean my clutter! I don’t know what I’m going to do for an income, but I’m glad I’m in a place to clean.
Laura:
I know what it is like to be let go from a job you needed but didn’t really want! It is almost like a loss and an emancipation at the same time!!
Clearing the physical clutter will give you a sense of accomplishment and help you to feel lighter and less burdened, which should make it easier to organize a job search.
You may find in the future (as I did) that this even was stimulus for a better life because you are not stuck in that job anymore.
Good Luck!